Everything posted by Maureen Clark
[:)] Oh I dont think youwill have to retire underground woolybanana, it's an opinion and a worthy one. In my heart, after working for many years in India, I think people turn to third world countries because adoptions are made so very difficult and very lengthy for them in their home countries -at least that's the opinion I've got from a few people. I dont think it's a good idea anyways to adopt from a third world country out of feeling sorry for the children there - not a great idea, as feelings change. The only reason I feel for anyone to adopt a child is if they want a child to make their lives whole, believe in their hearts that they think they will REALLY be able to love another's child and not resent them and inform them it's because they are not your own, for something they have done, in the future (Oh god, that one happens a lot) and understand what having someone else's child formpart of their family really means. It's no easy task and things can turn out very badly unless you are adopting for the right reasons - perhaps that's why the procedures are so lengthy in western countries - and so many are eventually refused out of not being suitable (though those words are not used when would be adoptive parents are informed)...perhaps after psychological tests are performed with the full medical they have to undergo. So many adoptions turn out to be terrible decisions and the child is the one that suffers for the rest of it's life...being rejected twice is something!
p.s. if you find a nice dark place underground, please let me have the address, I may want to rent it from you in the future when my own bullets start to fly![;-)]
Friend! You didnt offend me for one minute! Actually found another couple of little places this afternoon - one is a stones thrtow from the Spanish border in South Perignon region - cant remember where the other is right now (getting old...memory and all that!) butwill wait and see.
I believed renting was astronomically priced - and the problem is also that whenI comein October I wont have time to do much but look at a couple or ten places, as I'm visa hunting too and will probably have to stop off in the nearest City that has an Indian Embassy - I never want to be away fromTony for very long, he's my life (cant afford the b & b prices for long anyways eh!!)
p.s. how on earth do I PM someone here - cant find the place to do it on the profile thingy - or perhaps you gotta be a member for a while before you gits that eh?
How nice of you to write these things! The little chalet was/is an A frame type house that a French couple had been (might still be) living in for years - I didn't think of classing as a holiday home or something like that and therefore making illegal (or whatever) to live there all year round. A friend was going to come and do DIY and add a room downstairs for my son and stuff...had it all planned.
Renting is ok, but I wanted something that would be ours totally (and not give away dead money to someone else ever again) - and Tony's after my death. We have rented of course here in India for years but rents really ARE cheap here (i.e. 7 room house + bathroom + loo + kitchen and large garden up til a month ago when we moved house, was 1500 rupees a month which is about 30 Euro!!) we wanted somewhere where if we messed up the paintwork, or wanted to put his posters up on the wall that I wouldnt have to worry about it - knowing the landlord would make us paint it all or take the money from the advance deposit. At 55 I've never had a home of my own and would really love one now, especially for my son. Can you understand that? I so want a feeling of a real home for us and roots an all- just to be able to touch the walls outside and say for the first time ever - this really is ours!
I got an Internet connection just yesterday at home (dial-up) whilst waiting for broadband (waiting list of a month) and havent stopped looking yet -burning the midnight oil and stuff....I'd like to be able to find a few places to look at when I pop over in October. Got to go to Delhi before that and Kolkata before too, but hopefully I'll be in France by the end of October latest.
Hello Patf, I actually answered (sort of)your post in another thread concerning this, but please feel free to email me if you'd like any help. I am at present living in India (where I believe your son is trying to adopt from) and may be able to help with some information.
[:)]Hello friends and voisins!
I've lived in France twice before. Once in the 80's and then again in early 2004 for a few months when trying to buy a property. I've been living more or less permanently in India for 7 years caring for kids no one else wants, in our home, and feeding street kids too. I have one special "son" called Tony who is severley handicapped and whom I've known since 1999. He lives with me. It has always been my wish to come back again to France permanently and we had planned to do this in October. BUT an Agence Immobilier let us down badly and our little dream chalet in Indre seems to have dissappeared. Now so, I am again looking for a small property really anywhere in France(though I would have loved to have been near Issoudun) for my "son" and I. We were very blessed to have found the little chalet, as it was a "ready-to-move-into" property at a snip at 19000 euros. It was on 2200m2 wooded land but had no electricity (generator). It looked like something out of a fairy tale which we fell in love with at once. I doubt we can find another like it - though I'm spending every spare minute searching.
Working for nothing for many years will never give me a fortune to spend on a house for us, but I guess even though the little chalet was a one in a million chance, that please God we will find another! Anger still has a bit of a hold on me as far as the Agence Immobilier is concerned, but I can't let it eat me up and have to let it go - returning to the present and the need to find somewhere before I pop over in October to view.
Nice to find this forum - and you all seem like nice people - let hope we can be friends and maybe, who knows, even neighbours one day soon!
Hello to all here! I've been living & working in Tamil Nadu for about 7 years - give or take and am returning to France to live with my little handicapped "son" - hopefully early next year.
Adoption from India is not too complicated... First you must receive an 'Acceptance' for adoption certificate from the country you're living in and then CARA (the Indian Adoption Agency) looks for a child for you, if you haven't already decided on a particular child. You're then awarded guardianship (after many checks have been made on you..full medical, financial, criminal (!) home studies etc..). The passport for the child is issued automatically and takes less than two weeks after guardianship has been awarded and the whole process should not take more than 6 months. You dont have to pay a fortune for adoption from India - you pay I think it's 150 rupees per day for the child's "upkeep" from when he/she has been accepted by you, plus any medical expences. You do have to pay for the airfare of the child and someone to bring him/her to you if you are not collecting the child yourself - but there are NO hidden costs and no massive fee for adoption from here thank God!
India, however, is a very complex and slow country as far as most things are concerned and the "small print" should always be read!
I'm looking forward very much to returning to the country that has always been close to my heart, France, and hope to make a few friends here on this forum so that we will start to feel "at home" before we arrive! I lived for almost 5 years before near Blaye in the Gironde and a short time in Bellac.