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  1. This is a shortened version of an excellent article by an Australian oncologist:

     

    For my patients, life continues to unfold in all its enormity and mundanity. Parking is hard to find, specialists even harder. Tracking appointments is a full-time job. Absorbing good news and swallowing bad news – and having the stomach for both at every visit – demands equanimity. Then, beyond the heavy logistics, there is the sheer emotional fatigue of carrying a diagnosis that everyone feels entitled to weigh in on.

     

    The initial shock of a cancer diagnosis takes the wind out of everyone’s sails. What will I do now? Did I ignore the signs? What does my future hold? It doesn’t help that the usual narrative about cancer takes two forms: miracles and disasters. Either people defy the statistics or face an abject death. Of course, the truth lies in between: many cancer experiences have been transformed through modern medicine, agile technology and compassionate palliation. But surrounded by well-wishers, my patients describe feeling alone in the moment of discovery; they know that the weightiest implications will be theirs to negotiate in the silences between the noise.


    Unlike any other illness I can think of, cancer is a communal diagnosis. The flipside of a flood of sympathy is a tsunami of advice. Try this; eat that; go here; look there


     

    Ironically, some of society’s sickest patients face the greatest pressure to make the well among us feel better. So, while their public-facing side valorises positivity and “beating” cancer, inside they are scared and unsettled, as anyone would be. Cancer is synonymous with uncertainty; true success involves treating the body and mind. I rue how little we do of the latter. Patients explain that the way to help is to neither demand optimism nor let them drown in pessimism. Like so much in life, our response to those who have cancer requires moderation

     

    Whether treated, cured, palliated or somewhere in between, everyone wants human connection. Even the grumpy patients who scold us to “let me be” and especially the proud ones who insist they are “just fine”. There is a distinction between needing space and being alone – no one who is alone is truly fine.

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  2. On 12/02/2024 at 12:15, DaveLister said:

    Not at all, it was a Wise account. I want to try out their debit card.

    Just realised that my title should have read 'At last a Brexit bonus'.

    Can't figure out a way to correct it so sorry folks for the typo.

    I have one of their cards which lets me have an account in Euros, Sterling or Dollars. It also has the very useful function  that you can create a virtual card, use it for a transaction, then immediately freeze or delete it. It's useful with any site that you are not 100% sure of..

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  3. More generally I sympathise with ANYONE who has a cancer diagnosis.

    To quote John Donne

    "If a clod be washed away by the sea,
    Europe is the less.
    As well as if a promontory were.

    Each man's death diminishes me,
    For I am involved in mankind" ..

    .and the same can be said of illnesses such as Cancer.

    Would that the same concern as is being expressed at the State of the King's health, were given to his subjects.

  4. I would hope so. You have a good point about the effect of the publicity. I had regular checks for both prostate and bowel cancer from the age of 50,  and one after another they came up positive well before the symptoms were obvious, which meant that both could be caught early 

  5. 11 hours ago, Judith said:

    Quite Norman, but it must be said, the first diagnosis is always a shock which takes time to penetrate to being to talk about it I found.  I'm sure he'll be given all the best treatment(s) and maybe this will shake up the NHS to take more rapid action on cancer diagnosis and treatment for everyone.

    That would be a very good thing, but  the fact that those who govern have access to private medicine means that pay only lip  service to the NHS. The same applies to private education. Until the day (which I very much doubt will ever come) when those in power have to use the  facilities that they provide for the plebs, or in King Charles's case his subjects, there is little incentive for improvement.

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  6. Cancer is not necessarily a death sentence, nor is immediate as several of us are aware.

    My first diagnosis was in 2006.....

    I would imagine with the superb and constant medical attention that members of the Royal Family have that whatever it is  it will have been spotted early.

     

  7. On 03/02/2024 at 23:27, Gardian said:

    Strangely enough, I enjoyed Italy vs England theby  most of this weekend’s 3 matches.

    Fr vs Ire was predictably (for me, at least) one-way traffic.  France are suffering from injuries and Dupont’s absence.

    Wales vs Scotland was just bonkers - talk about a game of two halves!  

    England were OK, but not much better t, han that.  They’ll struggle against Ireland, and probably France & Scotland.

     won

    You could almost say that they had lost because if the Italian kicker had succeeded with the penalty which just swerved wide of the post at the end of the trajectory Italy would have won

  8. 59 minutes ago, alittlebitfrench said:

    I don’t read the #####$$$&& Telegraph. Nor want to pay for it.

    I have BFM on at the moment and flip between other French media oulets.

    Just saying.

    We live in France. Try French news.

    I do but knowing the level of your French I posted a link  that even you might be able to understand a glimmering of ....and it was free...

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  9. of the free deliveryoffer free delivery

    22 hours ago, DaveLister said:

    Rows of empty shelves in the supermarket at lunchtime and no parcel delivery. Seems the blockades in Nîmes and Montpelier are having an effect.

    I had two separate deliveries from Amazon today(don't ask me why they separated them) I have a delivery of household products from Carrefour for tomorrow, and the site didn't show any shortage of what I wanted.

    As an aside I don't know if every body knows that Carrefour will  let you order online and offer free delivery  to people over 65 years old

  10. "  It rained for 11 days out of 14"

    The couple who run my favourite restaurant have just got back from a fortnight on Île Maurice.

    After working very hard for two years without a break, plus all the extra work over Christmas and New Year they were rewarded by the Hurricane, and confined to their hotel room for two of the days, with the airport out of action, not😰 sure when they would  able to get back

  11. 3 hours ago, Lehaut said:

    Tut tut at this scandalous generalisation, we have just got back from walking in the snow in Chamonix!  Really liked the feel of Grenoble when we stayed there a couple of years ago,  surrounded by the mountains, but gather the weather is pretty dire a lot of the time   it certainly changes very quickly.

    I think that it is in a 'bowl' so suffers from heat in the Summer, and is cold and damp in the Winter. It is also subject to atmospheric pollution.

    https://www.linternaute.com/voyage/climat/grenoble/ville-38185

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