We've always found our neighbours in France somewhat standoffish. Even a Parisian described the local people as "hard". Then the following happened. While we have been in the UK a water leak developed. This was noticed by the lady friend of our neighbour. She drove to the lady who holds our spare keys. They both returned and turned the water off. Then our neighbour, who happens to be a plumber, went in and repaired the leak. Finally the lady friend returned the keys to the keyhoder. All of this happened in a day. I've only ever spoken to the lady friend once and the neighbour avoids eye contact whenever he can. What am I missing here? Our place is in a deeply rural location, where I daresay until relatively recent times people seldom went further than their local town - probably still true of many of them - and where life must have been incredibly difficult. Has this got something to do with it? Have other people found this coolness which isn't really coolness? Is the coolness actually just reserve and undemonstrativeness? Patrick