Thanks Chrissie for your reply. Our thoughts are pretty much the same as yours. We just need to make sure we do the 'done thing'! We have been invited to 'partager leur joie au cours de la messe' and 'à un vin d'honneur' in a local hall, so pretty much as you say. We shall go along and hovver quietly at the back! So, when we've chosen a suitable present, at what point do we give it to somebody?