okies, thank you all for your help with it. Yes, we've done about the 2 ceremonies at school, and my mum has told me about it too, as my auntie married a Frenchman, but she coyuldn't remember all the details, and as my auntie is english, it wasn't going to by a typically French account anyway. My mum did remember there being an ice cream wedding cake though, but I don't quite think that that is the norm, although it sounds good :p thank you again. sally.