lindal1000
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Well is it fair that someone is forced to be a parent? Okay.. I know that for the most part no one is forced..but for example, a friend of my sister was told by one of his girlfriend 's that she was on the pill, she wasn't and he was stitched up for child support for 16 years. Technically if he lived in France he wouldn't be able to disinherit the child he never wanted and apart from shelling out money for, has had no involvement with whatsoever. On the whole many of these complications arise because people are reluctant to make a will and sort things out when they are alive. I still don't see why an adult child should have the right to be supported by their family. What if they chose to spend all their inheritance fuelling their substance abuse problem? I speak as someone who did inherit money from my mother and I would have given up every penny to have had her with me for longer.
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I think this sounds much less about the dog and more to do with the ambivalence people feel about having to move to a more suitable environment. It took us two years to encourage my mother that it was the right thing to do and even then she ended up in hospital the week before the move and we just had to do it. There are plenty of solutions for the dog that don't involve rehoming or her getting it put down. I think pet ownership in older age is a personal choice but I don't think you are any less likely to have to face difficult decisions just because you are old. Younger people face divorce, death, illness, redundancy, forced moves etch, which can all impact on your ability to care for a pet, and to a certain extent you can't predict the future. You just need to plan for all eventualities.
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I would suggest that she contacts The cinnamon trust. They could help her with this and maybe provide volunteers to help her to exercise the dog. Of course she may be using the dog as a bit of an excuse and perhaps she doesn't really want to move. It's a big change.
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I've never really understood why people feel that adult children need protecting in relation to inheritance. I speak as someone who has no protected heirs and who is doing her best to ensure that my hard earned money is all gone by the time I leave this planet. However, I have seen several examples of adult kids who certainly don't deserve by right to inherit large sums of money, given that it will almost certainly be spent unwisely. Working out how to spend my money or tie it up in charities or funds so that the government or minor family members can't get their mitts on it is not about not wanting to be 'un French '. Most French people I know want to do the same and use every fiddle they can. Latest one I heard of was a French chap who was paying for all the renovations to be done on his son's house as he had used up all his tax free cash gifts.
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I think I'd probably keep the dog..it's probably all she has. There's an organization in the UK called the cinnamon trust that will support in these situations, either by trying to look at ways that the person can continue to manage the dog, or by rehoming if necessary. They also work with housing associations and nursing homes to encourage them to allow people to bring their pets with them. There's no real reason why a small dog would not be okay in sheltered housing, where people generally live independently. I used to volunteer for Cinnamon and the bond between elderly owners and their dogs was often much stronger than family. When one particular lady I used to visit died,. we looked after and revoked her Westin . Her kids were pretty ungrateful and had no interest in the dog at all so I took great pleasure in ordering the prettiest and biggest bouquet of flowers for her funeral and sending them on behalf of her dog!
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Interesting.. I would agree that ease of getting there and back is more important than actual distance. In Uk we were only 20 miles from the major specialist centre but in traffic it could take up to 2 hours and absolutely no parking. Caused me lots of problems when I was ill as I couldn't drive or manage on the bus for a while. Here in France we're also about 2 hours from the nearest specialist centre but a lot further in distance. In the UK and France, unless you collapse within an hour of somewhere like Kings, or other big trauma centre you're going to be disadvantaged.
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It depends on your turnover. If you have been averaging around 10000 euros year then you may have some quarters that count towards your pension.
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Why is it any different trying to sue an adult tenant rather than the parents of an underage tenant? Both routes to try and be avoided I would have thought..but in the end the agreement is with the person who signs the lease. I have seen no evidence that, on the whole, teenagers are any more likely to cause problems than anyone else. Renting out apartments comes with a degree of risk.. I can't see why renting it out to schoolkids would be any more risky than to any other group.As to the cleaning.. well the tenant is always responsible.. and if they don't leave it clean you can keep an amount from their security deposit to pay for a cleaner. It's only a problem if you want to rent the apartment to someone else over the weekend.
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Many of our friends children do this when they go to Lycee. All the decent Lycees are too far away to commute and so the parents pay for accommodation. The kids get dropped off Sunday night and return home Friday. Think about it from the parents perspective.. they are desperate to find a nice, clean place to stay for their offspring with someone that won't rip them off. The rental agreement and responsibility can only be with the parents. If it was me, I would make a decision based on the parents and the child..I would tell my insurance company and check that I was covered in the case of an accident, and I would probably keep a bit of a eye on them quietly, as if it was my child I would hope that someone would do that.
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My father tried very hard to give us names that would be unlikely to be ridiculed as our surname is one that could be teased. So, no middle names and ordinary first names. Anna, Jeff and I am Linda.. except that my surname is very very similar to Lovelace.. and no one could have prepared him or me for the kind of teasing I got as a young girl in the 70s!
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I don't think child benefit in France is means tested. Don't know for sure as I have no kids but I'm pretty sure it's available to anyone with kids who is a resident.I'm not sure I agree about invalidity benefit being means tested. Think of someone like Stephen Hawkins, who needs 24 hour card in order to get out of bed, let alone do a full days work. Now it just so happens that he has such a brilliant mind that he can earn enough money to pay for that care..but why shouldn't he be entitled to financial support to enable him to work?
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So how come then Gluestick, we don't pay any tax d'habitation because our income is too low?. This was not a benefit we applied for or paid in for and seems to have been dished out solely on the basis of our tax return. Not complaining but seems pretty generous to me.
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Sorry your feeling fed up. I don't watch much news and it leaves me in a much better state of mind! The problem with 'news' is that it has to be sensationalist to be newsworthy. The millions of people sitting in their homes getting on with their lives don't make interesting TV. When the 9/11 attacks happened I was working in East London at the Royal London Hospital. There was an incident when a group of Muslim medical students were found chanting 'death to the west' type statements in the library. I can't remember exactly the outcome but in the end it all blew over, life went on and calm returned. The aim of terrorism is to incite hatred and stir people up into frenzy and worry.My guess is with the funding, that it comes the same way as funding for criminal activities always has.. organised crime such as drug smuggling, people smuggling, arms dealing etc. Isn't Afghanistan the centre of the opium trade?
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It always seemed to be the policy in UK to adopt the high profile policing approach immediately after any event. Suddenly there would be police everywhere for a couple of weeks..all in high visibility vests..and I'm sure that was not so they became an easy target! Increased security doesn't seem to have reached as far South as Bordeaux. Having spent the best part of last week there the only thing I noticed was a sign on the trams asking people to report unattended bags.
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I also was concerned about getting wrong advice. I had two teeth causing problems. One was in a bad state, (a tooth that had been causing problems for years and one I repeatedly told my dentist about in UK who just kept saying there was nothing wrong. Eventually after three years the pain stopped so I believed him!). The second tooth was/is just uncomfortable, but has already had a root canal and crowned. The 3D x-ray confirmed a widespread infection in the first tooth and a localised infection on the second. I actually expected the dentist to suggest two implants but his suggestion was to go ahead with the first one (no choice really) and then when it is settled down he is going to do a treatment through the gum to try and clear up the infection of the other tooth and thus enable me to keep it a bit longer. I do have some contraindications for implants which is I think one reason why we are taking the slow approach. I hope your implant guy is good, although so far I have been very impressed with the professionalism of all the dentists I have seen here. I have heard there is someone good in Perigeaux as well.
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I got given a prescription for a whole load of things beforehand. I started a course of antibiotics two days before and I had mouthwash and spray for afterwards. Good idea to assess the chap first. I was a bit put off when I saw the outside of the surgery, in a rather grotty street. However the dentist was really knowledgeable and the surgery very well equipped, including a special scanner that takes 3d images of your jaw. They used synthetic bone for the graft and added a blood product (taken from me that morning), to aid healing. My partner had a long chat with the dentist about the torque wrenches they use for tightening the implant and said he had a good knowledge of mechanics.!
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Mint, I worked myself up into a total state before the procedure! The tooth extraction took 5 mins, the bone graft another 10. I did not feel a thing but did spend some time walking between surgeries as the bone graft was done in a sterile room. A little bit of discomfort as the anaesthetic wore off but nothing much. Following day less painful than before as the infection was going! The chap I went to was in Marmande and I would recommend him, Feel free to pm me if you want details.
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I had a bone graft done for a implant two months ago. Just been for the follow up and bone consolidating nicely. Fingers crossed implant can go in in two months and crown three months later. (I had a really bad infection and lost a lot of bone)
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I suspect it's a bit less centralized and more chaotic than that. I don't doubt there are one or two bigger 'organisations' that have some sort of campaign .but there are also a lot of smaller groups, acting on their own but under similar motivations. I doubt any of them have an office or a headquarters or anything that can be targeted and probably do much of their Western recruiting from a laptop, searching the internet and social media for vulnerable individuals that they can indoctrinate. The training camps are probably a group of people setting up a camp somewhere in the desert and then moving on when the job is done. My guess would be much of the funding comes from criminal activities (drug smuggling, arms dealing, extortion). It's not a particularly high cost operation. Of course no one should sit back and do nothing but there isn't an obvious action that can be taken. The Americans tried obliteration but that didn't work.. Any attempt to ban anything will only lead to things become even more difficult to follow. I think covert undercover operations are the only way.
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[quote user="ebaynut"]Linda, The recent terrorists in France did not not look ‘French’ to me. Not a stripped vest, beret or onion string in site. Also, France offered these families, peace, freedom of speech, liberty, healthcare and education... this is how France is repaid. Don't worry that my previous recommendation is not dealing with these latest perpetrators, that is in my plan ’B’, but I can’t post that as it would be deleted due to lack of freedom of speech rules. BTW when you say they have a legal right to be in Europe, is that legal by the rules of the present leaders, because I suspect and hope changes will be taking place to rid us of both them, and their multicultural ideals. It is because Europe has been soft and let anyone enter it in the recent past, that we have these ‘people’ here today and people like you who actually think of them as ‘French’. It’s a bit like saying Mo Farah the runner, Lewis Hamilton the car racer and Jaguar/Rolls Royce cars are British. They ain’t!!!![/quote] Well there I must disagree with Ebaynut. My great great grandmother came to the UK from somewhere African. She was black. I on the other hand am blond with fair skin. My sister's skin is darker and she has dark curly hair (just an example to point out to you the ridiculous of your statement that anyone who doesn't look 'British ' isn't. Are you proposing some sort of genetic test to determine 'frenchness' or Britishness. Anyway some of the recent Islamic terrorists detained in UK have been from good white British stock. At least though you have clarified that the FN is a fascist and racist party despite their claims not to be.
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Ebaynut..this recent group of terrorists were French. They had a legal right to live in France. It is radicalisation both from within and outside the country that needs addressing. People are recruited by someone sitting at a laptop in a faraway land. Dealing with illegal immigrants is a completely different issue.
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Well it seems like the inevitable happened and they came out like butch Cassidy and the Sundance kid, firing at security Services. No surprise that they are dead.
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Mint I understood what you were getting at, but whether you put wives and families in as human shields with the idea that the other side will fire on them, to me, that's the same as killing them yourself and not the job of a military that is supposed to represent a civilized country. Do you honestly think the scenes of women, children, old people crying for their lives, placed in that position by regular soldiers would be acceptable? And if they ran for it..are the professional soldiers supposed to shoot them? Yes I know that is what the terrorists would do, but that's the whole point..we don't live in a country run by terrorists.
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Whilst you and your OH might be happy to shoot innocent women and children being used as human shields (could you really look them in the eye and pull the trigger, because if not then they are of no use), I doubt the average or even the elite French soldiers would have the stomach for it. They are professional soldiers and not trained as terrorists, able to put their emotions to one side and shoot bystanders. There is no doubt in my mind that these men know they will be caught and will not be taken alive if they can help it. They will instigate a shoot out, trying to take out as many other people as they can in the process. The role of the army will be to put them out of action and limit the damage they do.
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