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  1. We have two children and three grandchildren, Coops. If you mean support financially, then no, not at all. We have enough to live on, and being reasonably frugal souls, we have adequate savings. However, if I were old and alone and unable to cope on my own any longer, I would hope they would care enough about my welfare to see that I am appropriately looked after. Not by them personally, I hasten to add, as I don't think that would work any better than having my MiL living with any of her sons. But that they would care enough to make arrangements for me if I were unable to make them for myself and go on caring enough to ensure that this care remained adequate and suitable.

    At present my MiL lives independently, many miles from any of her sons.  However, as her memory starts to deteriorate gradually, they keep a watching brief on her affairs and help her out in all sorts of ways, some small, some bigger, but none of them financial.

    All this seems to me to be absolutely unremarkable behaviour in the context of family life. No, I didn't ask my parents to have me, but I'm extremely glad they did and am still grateful for their love and care and support when I needed it.  Sadly, they are long dead, so that I can't repay them in their old age, but I can for my MiL and am glad to do it.  I rather hope my children will feel the same in their turn.

  2. Don't agree with your premise, Coops, [:)] but, even though we feel a strong sense of responsibility to my darling MiL, she is adamant she doesn't want to live with us or either of her other two sons.  She was widowed quite early and has lived on her own for the past 28 years, and she doesn't plan to change that if she can help it.
  3. [quote user="Gluestick"]Sorry, JE: to myself and many other guys, women who sleep around as a sort of hobby, wreck marriages for their own, short-term gratification are socially, beyond the pale. [/quote]

    Fine, provided that it's equally OK to say that to myself and many women, guys who sleep around as a sort of hobby and wreck marriages for their own short-term gratification are socially beyond the pale! Or are we back with the good old dual standard?

  4. The problem is getting them to wear the alarm, Frederick. My 86-year-old mother-in-law has an excellent alarm system, connected to a social care agency 24/7, but will she wear the bracelet with the panic button?  Not on your life! She says she doesn't like to wear it and her clothes have no pockets to carry it around with her, so she leaves it lying on the chest of drawers, completely negating the purpose of the system. At least her system has a an infra-red movement sensor which will trigger an alarm call if she doesn't pass it within a certain number of hours, but that wouldn' tbe much use if she were outside in the freezing cold all that time. A big problem for the family and friends of fiercely independent elderly people still living alone.
  5. Lovely to see you back posting so soon, Cathy, and to know the surgery went well. [:)] If you're anything like me when I had my last bc op, I found forums a great source of support and was back posting as soon as I could.
  6. Reverting to the theme of poppies and remembrance, I'm just back from a wreath-laying ceremony at what must be the most wonderfully-situated war memorial imaginable, on a hillside overlooking the Kyle of Tongue and the Sutherland mountains in the far north of Scotland. The ceremony was far better attended this year than in recent years according to a long-term inhabitant, and at least a quarter of the people there were children and teenagers.

    On the memorial were the names of 21 men who died in WW1, a large number given that this is by far the most sparsely-populated area in the UK. I felt that what we were doing was profoundly worth doing and I for one wore my poppy with pride and sadness, remembering that one of the countless victims of WW1 was my 21year-old great-uncle, who died on the Somme.

  7. [quote user="Braco"]  So anyone who dares to think must be a crypto fascist? We should all tow the party line? That is exactly the thinking that allowed an Austrian Corporal to assume power and a modern day scum bag to persuade a nation to support our glorious troops in killing the Taliban or in ‘English’ Afghanistan citizens. You do not show your disgust of Nazis by copying their traits and actions.[/quote]

    I doubt the Taliban hesitate much before killing their fellow Afghans, Braco. To liken our troops' actions to those of the Nazis is deeply offensive and historically just plain ignorant. It's lucky for you that you live in a society whcih allows you to express opinions with which most people would profoundly disagree.

  8. So did I. [:)] Got 79.5 and would have got a few more if I hadn't been in a hurry and so didn't check. At least two were marked wrong because I omitted accents on other words, though the grammatical answers were right. Like others, my tenses were my weakest area, particularly since I didn't recognise a couple of the French terms for tenses. Must try the seciond level when I have more time.
  9. [quote user="powerdesal"][quote user="KathyF"]. Once you've invited people, you can't really kick them out when you don't need them anymore.

    [/quote] Oh but you can !!! Its called a work permit system and has been in practice for many years in other parts of the World. as an example,....I have been "invited" to work in the UAE, I accepted that invitation. When the work that I have been invited to do is complete I will have to leave.....simples.[/quote]

    Agreed, but only if the work permit system is in force at the time you invite them.  It wasn't back in the 1950s and 60s.  Then the invitation was open-ended.

  10. [quote user="ebaynut"][quote user="Gardener"][quote user="ebaynut"][quote user="Clair"]I watched images of the "protests" on the  French news and couldn't help but be reminded of the poll tax and Moss Side riots back in the days...

    [/quote] Moss side, Toxteth, Broadwater farm, all good reasons for the UK to have closed it boarders years ago IMHO. None of these can be blamed on the English.[/quote] It happened in England so whose fault was it?[/quote] The UK governments fault for allowing people from outside the UK to live in the country.....[/quote]

    The government didn't just allow immigrants to settle in the UK, ebaynut. Back in the 50s they actually invited them to do so, to fill the pressing need for more workers, especially workers willing to do the dirty, low-paid jobs the English (since you seem not to be talking about the British [;-)]) no longer wanted to do themselves. Once you've invited people, you can't really kick them out when you don't need them anymore.

  11. Chancer, you're not the only one who finds posts with few or no paragraph and sentence breaks incredibly difficult to read.  I'm very short-sighted and though my specs correct well, focussing on a big block of text is very tiring. Spelling mistakes don't bother me, but I find lack of punctuation much harder to cope with.
  12. Grapefruit is also not a good idea for women who have had post-menopausal hormone-receptive breast cancer as it increases oestrogen levels in the body. I wish I'd known that years ago, as I had breast cancer in 1998 and ate grapefruit every day at breakfast for years. Perhaps I might have avoided a recurrence in 2005 without it.
  13. Well, the law says that the polling station doors must be locked at 10pm and only those who have already been issued with a ballot paper are allowed to vote. I'm not saying I agree with this rigidity, but it is the law and has been for many years. It may be that the Electoral Commission review will recommend changes in the law for next time round.
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