TWINKLE Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 France or Britain?I'm wondering about this as it has just dawned on me that soon, I'll have been living in France just as long as I lived in Britain. I think I want to be buried in the village cemetary where my husbands grandparents are buried and where his parents will be too - if we stay here until then that is. Anyway - I'm sure it'll be a French funeral for me.Been absent from the forum for a long time and so sorry for coming back with such a maudlin subject - but I'm curious? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
woolybanana Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 My ashes to be spread in the sea in Lyme Bay or on Ham Hill in Somerset. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NormanH Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 I am a member of the Association de Crématistes, and if you wish to be cremated as opposed to being buried I suggest you look into it, as cremation is far from either the norm (no pun) or automatic in France, a situation which comes from the importance of the Catholic church. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
woolybanana Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 Thank you, I will. But is it not now simply the bureaucracy rather than the cathos? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LEO Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 Hi Twinkle ,I will let my survivors decide and, hope that I get another 20 years ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NormanH Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 [quote user="woolybanana"]Thank you, I will. But is it not now simply the bureaucracy rather than the cathos?[/quote]Probably. But you do have to leave an easy to find statement of intent.By being part of this Association they undertake to take charge of everything if your next of kin can't get there.And being France new laws were passed last year about the treatment of YOUR ashes.For example they can no longer be kept at home.This is yet another area into which Brits abroad stumble believing that things in France are the same as in the UK. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TWINKLE Posted September 11, 2010 Author Share Posted September 11, 2010 [quote user="LEO"]Hi Twinkle ,I will let my survivors decide and, hope that I get another 20 years ![/quote]Long Live Leo x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TWINKLE Posted September 11, 2010 Author Share Posted September 11, 2010 [quote user="NormanH"]I am a member of the Association de Crématistes, and if you wish to be cremated as opposed to being buried I suggest you look into it, as cremation is far from either the norm (no pun) or automatic in France, a situation which comes from the importance of the Catholic church.[/quote]I want to be buried thank you NormanH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TWINKLE Posted September 11, 2010 Author Share Posted September 11, 2010 [quote user="woolybanana"]My ashes to be spread in the sea in Lyme Bay or on Ham Hill in Somerset.[/quote]Is there enough of your lovely self to be spread on a bit of both of those places? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Théière Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 Ashes scattered from the bridge at Henley upon Thames, with the wind in the right direction every one in the angel on the bridge can drink to my passing! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catalpa Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 Where do I want to be laid to rest?I'll be dead. I won't be "resting" anywhere. Having seen a few dead bodies in my time, to me the body is an irrelevant shell once whatever it is that animates that body departs. I definitely want to be cremated as anything else would be a waste of space but as to what happens to my ashes... well, it's of no interest to me. Those decisions have to be made by the next-of-kin and they have to do what feels right for them and what aids their grieving process. Assuming anyone is grieving... [6]Nice to see you Twinks. [:D] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NormanH Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 Ok.Another good reason for me to stop posting again.I try to give sensible and known information for people who live in France (The Forum is called 'Living France' ) and I am completely ignored by people who assume they will die in England.Why are they posting here? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TWINKLE Posted September 11, 2010 Author Share Posted September 11, 2010 You too Catalpa xWell I obviously expect people to get on planes from all over the world to come and pay their respects to me [:P]Why am I thinking about things like this? Maybe my Catholic upbringing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Théière Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 That's easy Norman, because in your earlier post you made it obvious that cremation is a bigger deal in France so............It will most likely be in England.Was not ignoring you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krusty Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 Norm why are you assuming people are assuming they will die in France ?They might be thinking their next of kin will get their body back to the UK . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TWINKLE Posted September 11, 2010 Author Share Posted September 11, 2010 [quote user="NormanH"]Ok.Another good reason for me to stop posting again.I try to give sensible and known information for people who live in France (The Forum is called 'Living France' ) and I am completely ignored by people who assume they will die in England.Why are they posting here?[/quote]Are we having a tantrum NormanH? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TWINKLE Posted September 11, 2010 Author Share Posted September 11, 2010 I don't have a clue where I'll die - it could be while I'm cockle picking in Blackpool on a holiday with my French husband (when I'm much older [:)]) I want to be buried in France even though I was born in Britain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krusty Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 [quote user="TWINKLE"]France or Britain?[/quote]Anyway Twinks , why only two choices ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quillan Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 I don't really care. I don't believe in Heaven or Hell (although on an off day I feel I might be living the latter) nor reincarnation, this is it, as good as it gets. So seeing as I will be dead it won't worry me. The only people that it effects is those that out live you but then why panda to their wishes? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LEO Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 [quote user="Quillan"]I don't really care. I don't believe in Heaven or Hell (although on an off day I feel I might be living the latter) nor reincarnation, this is it, as good as it gets. So seeing as I will be dead it won't worry me. The only people that it effects is those that out live you but then why panda to their wishes?[/quote]Hi Quillan,What have bears got to do with it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TWINKLE Posted September 11, 2010 Author Share Posted September 11, 2010 [quote user="krusty"][quote user="TWINKLE"] France or Britain?[/quote]Anyway Twinks , why only two choices ?[/quote] Just wrongly assumed most of you lot living in France are British ex-pats [:$]Okay! France or Wherever You Hail From Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
woolybanana Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 It is his age doing it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catalpa Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 [quote user="NormanH"](The Forum is called 'Living France' ) [/quote]A 'Dead in France' forum would be a bit quiet. [quote user="NormanH"]Why are they posting here?[/quote]Because they can. [:P]There are crematoriums (crematoria?) in France. I believe there's a very nice new and shiny crematorium in Caen (or there's due to be) for eg. Where's the difficulty in arranging it?http://www.afif.asso.fr/english/cremation.htm Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clair Posted September 11, 2010 Share Posted September 11, 2010 [quote user="Catalpa"]Where do I want to be laid to rest?I'll be dead. I won't be "resting" anywhere. Having seen a few dead bodies in my time, to me the body is an irrelevant shell once whatever it is that animates that body departs. I definitely want to be cremated as anything else would be a waste of space but as to what happens to my ashes... well, it's of no interest to me. Those decisions have to be made by the next-of-kin and they have to do what feels right for them and what aids their grieving process. Assuming anyone is grieving... [6]Nice to see you Twinks. [:D][/quote]What she says... [:)] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TWINKLE Posted September 11, 2010 Author Share Posted September 11, 2010 [quote user="Quillan"]I don't really care. I don't believe in Heaven or Hell (although on an off day I feel I might be living the latter) nor reincarnation, this is it, as good as it gets. So seeing as I will be dead it won't worry me. The only people that it effects is those that out live you but then why panda to their wishes?[/quote]Hello Quillan ye of the chilly office!So is it just my French in-laws that make such a fuss of where they want to go when they pop their sabots? Personally I wouldn't want to have to make that sort of decision for anybody. It's bad enough losing a loved one without the dilema of deciding where they should be laid to rest. Well it's important to me anyway. (Stamping my foot and puffing out my cheeks 'cos' you're not playing my game now!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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