Catalpa Posted October 26, 2005 Share Posted October 26, 2005 [quote]The questions Catalpa raises are fascinating, numerous and not easy to answer. She(?)'s right, of course, when she says it's basic primeval fear of the dark but be kind to us for genuine darkness isn...[/quote]Oh I rambled on far too long but I do find instinctive reactions and behaviours fascinating. I’m scared of spiders. If I see a shadow that even looks like a spider my whole being flinches internally. It’s a totally instinctive reaction – primitive? Rational thought has no place in that split second reaction. Why??? I’m sure I wasn’t attacked by a monster spider in my cot. I’d probably have eaten it. The fear of the dark thing: the region’s psychopaths clearly aren’t gathering at the windows ready to burst in and say hi... intellectually that’s clear. Emotionally... not so clear and I sympathise. I just think subjects like this are interesting to consider. I’m not sure there are any answers. I think we’re all scared of something - usually something tangible - spiders, snakes, rodents, toads, whatever. I guess fear of the dark is just another manifestation of that. Analysing it a little may alleviate it a bit. Hope so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tresco Posted October 26, 2005 Share Posted October 26, 2005 Margaret, i'm sorry, I somehow didn't realise you were having real problems adjusting, and that you were really scared. I've lived in very big cities, medium sized ones, and something approaching one. Regarding the difference in my feelings about my personal security when 'alone', here are two things I should have said. 1. Physical barriers rule 2. In the countryside, if you have, say, 8 neighbours within half a mile, they will hear you if you shout out of a window! (and of course all their dogs will too). I hope things get better for you soon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
le bouffon Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Seems you lived every where and nowhere but you drone on about sheffield and that you came from hulme,for a long while you have seemed mixed up,oh well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tresco Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Seems you lived every where and nowhere but you drone on about sheffield and that you came from hulme,for a long while you have seemed mixed up,oh well.Oh dear me, where did that little splutter of idiocy come from?. Look, i'll go easy on you, as I suspect you had a 'heavy' lunch. I am not someone who has had multiple ids, some running concurrently (how 'mixed up' is that?) on this forum, nor am I at all mixed up about the fact that I am not from, nor have I ever lived in 'hulme' (sic). I do happily admit to talking with another member once about Sheffield, and indeed apologising at the time to forum members, (though several joined in), for the deviation from the topic. That was several months ago - I have made no reference to the places you mention in this topic - have you been for a long drive somewhere, are you 4 months behind the rest of us?It must be distressing for you, the way these spontaneous and cheerful chats get going. Chats you can never get involved in, for obvious reasons. /post slightly edited Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
le bouffon Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 Is it really that long,just goes to show how time flies when one works in the real world oops private sector and pays taxes,you have been in france so you say for over 2yrs now what do you do?do you pay taxes do you even work in france after supposedly being here in france for over 2yrs???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Russethouse Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 I suspect Tresco does as Mrs Le Bouffon does, stays at home and looks after her family, as is her right.Really Bouffon you must get your mind out of this 'everyone MUST work' groove. You may have to, as do I, but what others do is up to them (as long as its legal ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YCCMB Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 Just got back from a week alone at our house in France: remote, quiet and peaceful.I've never been scared of being alone, and am probably less so in France than in the UK. Our French house is much "sqeakier" than our UK house, but I'm used to dozing off and waking up to the sound of the planes arriving at Heathrow, so sometimes the silence actually stops me from sleeping. However, having set off on this trip in a totally sleep-deprived state after a few weeks of insomnia, I've slept like a log throughout the week away!On top of this, I've had some artisans round, as well as entertaining friends, eaten out and at friends' places, and had no hesitation about popping down to the local hotel/resto to eat - sometimes alone, sometimes with others. I think, as most of our French friends live very close to us, whereas meeting friends in England means a long drive,I have more of a social life in France than I do in the UK, so if anything, I feel less alone in France.Got home Thursday night, OH left for work on Friday morning and won't return till the early hours of Monday.................would definitely rather still be by myself in France than here!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
le bouffon Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 Now gay there you have me after reading some of and by no means all of i`m here in 17 postings could not find any reference to kids to stay home for!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Russethouse Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 Did I SAY what size her family was ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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