woolybanana Posted March 18, 2011 Share Posted March 18, 2011 "I burden you with kisses and caresses until... I need you in this moment of desire. I love you."http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-gloucestershire-12738868Can you do better? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JSKS Posted March 18, 2011 Share Posted March 18, 2011 In response to the topic title: Yes.In response to your post: No Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Gardian Posted March 18, 2011 Share Posted March 18, 2011 Well, if I had ever sent anything like that to Mrs G, she'd have had a funny turn. On a more serious note, we have always sent thank you notes and letters of condolence in the written form. I'll admit though that we've recently slipped in to using email for brief notes of thanks for, let's say an informal lunch at somebody's home.However, there was a need a week or two back to send a letter of condolence: writing a letter longhand was quite a problem. It was as if the muscles in the hand had got out of practice: well, in truth, they had. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loiseau Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 I wrote a letter of condolence the other day, and had to draft it on the computer first so that I could swap the paragraphs about to best effect, before copying it out in my fair(ish) hand.Angela Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JSKS Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 Don't forget there are some who cannot write for physical reasons for example because of to a medical condition - I am one. However, I think the content of a communication exceeds in importance the method of its delivery - at least that is how I excuse my reliance on one of these computer jobbies and a printer! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gardengirl Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 It would be interesting to know how things turned out for that couple. How long before somebody bases a novel on it?I've always enjoyed writing letters etc, but find it more difficult when arthritis in my fingers flares up. 'Getting on a bit' brings the need for writing many letters of condolence. I remember years ago my father complaining that every time he read the local paper he found more people he knew had died. It's not quite that bad for us yet, but so many deaths in the family and amongst friends in recent months! I also hate Christmas cards arriving early - they seem to contain a message that a spouse has died. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idun Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 When we first moved to France I used to correspond with about 20 different friends/family on a regular basis. None of this lovey stuff mind, and certainly not arty, but it was very nice getting letters in the letter box and news of home and friends and family.The most vivid was from an irate friend who had found out that her husband had had a Lewinsky/Clinton sort of get together and she had found out. My friend and her husband are still together, not sure if I could have been so forgiving.I was listening to Churchills letters to his wife on Radio 4 last year and they were wonderful. What a pleasure it must have been to receive such letters.Yes, M. Banane I can't do it, I would love to be able to. AND I regret that no one I know really writes letters any more.PS I used to write my letters in italics with a proper fountain pen. Somehow I always felt that a proper pen meant that I had to think before putting pen to paper. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cooperlola Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 As I have the world's worst handwriting, I think it's a great relief to all concerned that I e-mail these days wherever possible.[:)] One can be just as lucid/graphic/literate/loving/whatever in this medium and why not? I write e-mails in rather the same way as I post on here - I just type what I feel and then regret half of it once I've sent/posted it! I wholeheartedly agree about condolences though (and, the notification of a death also) - I do not want to get an e-mail giving me devastating news - what's wrong with the phone if you don't have time to write? After my father's and my sister's deaths, I phoned all their friends and told them directly. Likewise, I always write a proper letter to the relatives when somebody dies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JSKS Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 CooperLola,How would you feel if the person couldn't write by hand but sent you a typed letter instead? I'm really curious because I can no longer write by hand (at least not so anyone, including me, can read it) and I am genuinely worried that a typed letter of condolence for example might be seen as unfeeling.Mind you, I could always apologise for not handwriting but that seems a bit inappropriate.Any thoughts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cooperlola Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 I suppose all would depend upon the circumstances. But a very close friend of mine died when I was in hospital after my accident and his son broke the news to me in an e-mail. Given that I was one of the (very) few people who still regularly visited and stayed with him, and that I had known both the son and the father for more than 30 years, I was very hurt. Maybe I was daft, maybe I'm old-fashioned, but it seemed very cold to me, in the circs. Of course, these things are difficult to generalise about because everybody's circumstances are different, but I bet your friends understand that you can't write by hand any longer and thus they would understand. If the letter, even typed, seemed personal and heart-felt, then I doubt anybody would be offended by its being type-written, least of all me.[:)] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alan Zoff Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 I agree with Cooperola's "circumstances" point.In general, I am a strong supporter of the correct use of language. However, there can be too much emphasis on form. Where emotional matters are involved, the important thing is the sincerity of what is being expressed. I would suggest that a genuine expression of support is of far more importance to the recipient than the political correctness of the method in which it has been sent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnOther Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 Times move on but I well recall in the 80's whilst working in the Middle East where the written word was the only practical and affordable form of communication. Away for up to 3 or 4 months at a time letters were a joy both to receive and compose. In the early days in the Oman mail came only once a week and the disappointment of not getting a letter from home was crushing.One of the things which was taken when we were robbed a while back was a small ladies briefcase in which Mrs Ern had kept every letter I had sent her over the 8 or 9 years I worked away and she was more upset about the loss of that than any other material object. I hope the thief couldn't read English !!!Even today I think there is no denying that a handwritten letter conveys far far more than any email ever can.Coops your handwriting cannot possibly be worse than mine ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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