Mrs Trellis Posted March 31, 2014 Share Posted March 31, 2014 A person in the village has taken to dropping in on us. It can be several times a week, the worst being 9.30 a.m. Christmas Eve two days after I came out of hospital after a fairly serious op.He is epileptic due to a childhood accident, stutters and forgets words and conversation topics are limited. I feel mean but it is getting a bit much. Sometimes I just want to watch TV in peace, or bake a cake, whatever. When the doorbell goes and we are not expecting anyone, my heart sinks.I hesitate to say anything and he just doesn't get any subtle hints or notice if I fail to muster a smile sometimes when I answer the door. He has a coffee and sometimes requests another one. I just feel I want to be peaceful in my home. The car is there and the dogs bark so I can't pretend we're out! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EuroTrash Posted March 31, 2014 Share Posted March 31, 2014 It may seem rude but I think maybe if you don't open the door, and he knows you are in because of the car and the dogs, he will get the message. There is no need to pretend to be out, you can simply choose not to open the door. There is no law that says you have to open the door everytime somebody knocks, or answer the phone every time it rings. Good manners dictate that you should - but good manners are all about making sure that one person doesn't put another person in an awkward situation, and that's exactly what he's doing to you.It's horrible to feel you might be hurting somebody's feelings but maybe if you can manage to avoid him for a few weeks, then once he's got out of the habit of calling (he'll probably latch on to somebody else) then next time you see him, be nice to him and slip it into the conversation how busy you are and you never get time to socialise with anybody these days. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dave21478 Posted March 31, 2014 Share Posted March 31, 2014 Yep, as above.There is a simple guy who lives in my hamlet. I dont know what his story is, he is just a bit Forrest Gump'ed but without the charm.I helped him out a couple of times, giving him a lift to town and so on, and after that he was always round asking for something or just wanting to talk.He had an old VW Polo that he was always tinkering with, but clearly clueless about ( he painted it with a big paintbrush and a tin of green house paint!). Eventually he buggered around with it too much an it stopped working. I re-tuned the carb and timing for him which got him back on the road and after that I unwittingly became his personal mechanic, he was always asking about things on the car - could I fix this? did I have any spare that? could he borrow x tool? He screwed it up again and chopped out the dashboard wiring, killing the car so bought a motorbike, which is now also broken due to his tinkering. I flatly refuse to help as I really dont want to be in that position again.Every time he comes round I just dont answer the door, but when I pass him I wave and say hello, but never stop to talk. He seems to have got the hint. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NormanH Posted March 31, 2014 Share Posted March 31, 2014 Lend him 10€ and each time he comes round ask for it back... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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